ÿþ<HTML> <HEAD> <TITLE>How to survive a break up or divorce - tipps, tips</TITLE> </script> <META http-equiv="content-type" content="text/html; charset=iso-8859-1"> <META NAME="keywords" CONTENT="How to survive a break up, how to survive a divorce, how to get over him, how to get over her, get over my ex, how to get over my ex, break up tips, tips against lovesickness, heartache"> <META NAME="robots" CONTENT="follow"> <link rel=stylesheet type="text/css" href="http://date-cultured-men.com/dcm.css"> </HEAD> <BODY BGCOLOR=#FFFFFF TEXT=#000000 LINK=#000000 VLINK=#000000 ALINK=#000000 LEFTMARGIN=0 TOPMARGIN=0 BGPROPERTIES="FIXED"> <TABLE ALIGN="CENTER" CELLPADDING=12 CELLSPACING=0 WIDTH="835" BORDER=0> <TR> <TD ALIGN="CENTER" BACKGROUND="http://www.girlsmeetgentlemen.com/GMG-header.jpg" WIDTH="830" HEIGHT="187"> </TD> </TR> <tr> <td align="center" valign="middle" bgcolor="white" width="100%" height="40"> <HR ALIGN="CENTER" SIZE="2" WIDTH="100%" COLOR="grey"> </td> </tr> <TR> <TD ALIGN="LEFT"> <H1>How to survive a break up or divorce</H1> <BR> A break up or a divorce is always hard, no matter if we are the one who decided to end the relationship or one who got left. It feels like the world is going to end and pain and sorrow are overwhelming. But at some point it is time to move onwards and look forward. When one door closes another opens. It might be hard to accept but every break up is also a new beginning with new chances and possibilities. But at first we want to look at the things we can do, to survive the hard times. <BR><BR> If at all possible, try to avoid too much contact with your ex. Every time you meet or speak your emotions will rise again and you won t have the chance to get over it. If communication can t be avoided, e.g. because you are working in the same company or have children, try to keep the conversations on an organisatorical level. Try not to speak about your emotional situation. <BR><BR> Don t be too hard on yourself. It might take a very long time to get over it. Distract yourself. Go out and do nice things you always wanted to do. Meet friends and your family and spend your time with things that do you good and soothe your soul. But avoid being excessively busy. If you distract your mind 24/7 you will only postpone the problem of confronting yourself with your feelings. <BR><BR> Get rid of what s crossing your mind. Talk to friends about your feelings and thoughts about the break up or start an old fashioned diary. If you are feeling angry compensate the anger with sport. Don t do things that harm your health. Be good to yourself. <BR><BR> Analyze your broken relationship and the reasons why it failed and learn from it for the future. Try to focus on your qualities and positive characteristics. Think about what you don t want in a future relationship anymore and in what way you want your future partner to be different to your ex. That way you get into a positive mind set and are concentrating on getting happy again. <BR><BR> Tidy away all the things that remind you of your ex such as photos, presents, toiletries in the bathroom and everything else that brings up unpleasant feelings. If he or she moved out, clean up the place and redecorate. Buy new stuff, reorganize the furniture and paint the walls in different colors. That way you will be distracted and your new environment will feel like a new start without your ex-partner. <BR><BR> As time passes your negative feelings will fade and your self-esteem will come back. You will be open for new experiences again and will also open up for the possibly of finding a new partner. But until then accept that there will be throwbacks. Try to focus on what makes you happy and keep going until you feel like yourself again. <BR><BR><BR> <A HREF="http://www.girlsmeetgentlemen.com"><H1>> back to girlsmeetgentlemen.com</H1></A> <BR><BR> <CENTER><FONT SIZE=-1 >© since 2006</FONT></CENTER> <CENTER><FONT SIZE=-1 >all rights reserved</FONT></CENTER> </TD> </TR> </TABLE> <BR> </BODY> </HTML>