ÿþ<HTML> <HEAD> <TITLE>How to break up - If A Dump Is Unavoidable, Do It Nicely!</TITLE> </script> <META http-equiv="content-type" content="text/html; charset=iso-8859-1"> <META NAME="keywords" CONTENT="How to break up, how do I dump him, how do I dump her, dump someone, tell my partner it s over, breaking up with style"> <META NAME="robots" CONTENT="follow"> <link rel=stylesheet type="text/css" href="http://date-cultured-men.com/dcm.css"> </HEAD> <BODY BGCOLOR=#FFFFFF TEXT=#000000 LINK=#000000 VLINK=#000000 ALINK=#000000 LEFTMARGIN=0 TOPMARGIN=0 BGPROPERTIES="FIXED"> <TABLE ALIGN="CENTER" CELLPADDING=12 CELLSPACING=0 WIDTH="835" BORDER=0> <TR> <TD ALIGN="CENTER" BACKGROUND="http://www.girlsmeetgentlemen.com/GMG-header.jpg" WIDTH="830" HEIGHT="187"> </TD> </TR> <tr> <td align="center" valign="middle" bgcolor="white" width="100%" height="40"> <HR ALIGN="CENTER" SIZE="2" WIDTH="100%" COLOR="grey"> </td> </tr> <TR> <TD ALIGN="LEFT"> <H1>How to break up - If A Dump Is Unavoidable, Do It Nicely!</H1> <BR> The realization that we don t love our partner as much as we used to or simply not enough anymore to maintain an honest and truthful relationship is very hard and utterly sad. But once we are sure about it, the only fair thing to do is to break up. But dumping someone is never easy. It means that we have to hurt a person we used to love, someone we really care about. The decision should therefore be communicated as carefully and sensitively as possible to avoid psychological damage. But what is the best way to tell your girlfriend or boyfriend (or your husband or wife) that you don t want the relationship anymore? <BR><BR> The most important thing is: don t rush. It is vital, that the dumper thinks carefully about his decision and how he wants to put it across instead of confronting his partner with this ultimate shock unprepared and spontaneously based on accumulated bad feelings, for example in a fight or argument. This will only cause emotional confusion and damage and will leave the dumped person completely devastated and gutted. <BR><BR> The second most important aspect is how to communicate the bad news. Of course it is hard but the dumper should have the guts to tell him or her in person. If at all avoidable, the dumped person should not receive an e-mail or, even worse, a text message on the phone saying:  I am sorry darling but it s over. Nice to meet you and good luck for the future. Cell phones and computers are slowly replacing all the other ways of communication but they are still impersonal machines and should never be used to communicate important and emotional messages. The dumped person would have no chance or opportunity to react and it will leave him or her with many questions and dreadful sorrow. <BR><BR> A telephone call is slightly more personal but it is still an easy way for gutless dumpers because they don t have to look their future ex-partner in the eye. So dear dumper, fair enough you decided to end your relationship but please make the effort to sit in front of your partner and tell it straight to his or her face. You owe it to them! <BR><BR> Once the dumper has gathered all of his courage, his thoughts will no doubt go into overdrive. How will the partner react? What should I say to comfort my partner? What if my partner freaks out? How do I get out of the situation as smoothly and quickly as possible? The answers are not predictable because every person is different and reacts differently to news like that. The dumper should be aware of his or her reasons and be 100% honest. And then all that s left for him to do is to wait for how the dumped one reacts. Of course the dumper has to be there to make sure all questions and unclarified circumstances are solved. But it is just as vital to let go at some point. No matter how sad it might be, the dumped person has to get over it alone. <BR><BR><BR> <A HREF="http://www.girlsmeetgentlemen.com"><H1>> back to girlsmeetgentlemen.com</H1></A> <BR><BR> <CENTER><FONT SIZE=-1 >© since 2006</FONT></CENTER> <CENTER><FONT SIZE=-1 >all rights reserved</FONT></CENTER> </TD> </TR> </TABLE> <BR> </BODY> </HTML>